Old Pregnancy Archive

Sunday, 22 August 2004

Changing routines

Isn't it amazing how routines develop and change so quickly, yet when you're in the thick of them they can seem constant. I was just thinking how, if all goes to exactly to plan, I might not finish this menstrual cycle. Or more correctly, another one might not start for (based on last time) 18 months or so. And that seems odd. I am so used to that cycle governing my life, yet only a little while ago I had 18 months without it. And to have the cycle start up again seemed equally odd. For months I would complete forget about it and be caught unawares when my period came due.

But the same thing happens on a much smaller scale with Liam. When he was only a few weeks old I would find myself recognising a routine, only to have it change the next day. Now we have routines that last for longer periods - he's been having a (roughly) midday nap for five months now, for instance - but still, they feel like permanent fixtures, when in fact they change with startling regularity. Even within what seems like a clear routine there are lots of changes.

For example at the moment, Liam goes to sleep for this nap with me or Chris lying down in bed with him. Sometime he nurses to sleep, sometimes not. It seems like that's how it's always been. But actually, when we first came back from the States, in March, he would fall asleep nursing in the chair in the living room, and I would carry him to bed. If I were at work Chris would sometimes have to take him for a drive, or a walk in the pram, and then carry him into the house asleep. Then there was the phase when Chris could lie down with him and get him to sleep, but it would take 1/2 an hour, whereas I would lie down and nurse him to sleep in five minutes. Now it's different again (and frequently takes a darn sight more than five minutes, but to compensate he slept for over three hours today!).

It's like, we are so set up for adaptation that we don't even realise change happens, as long as it is relatively incremental. And so when it's not, when it's major, it feels like we'll never learn to adjust. But we do, of course.

**This post was orginially published on Ocean View Verandah using Blogger. Please let me know of any down links (especially to photos).**

Tuesday, 17 August 2004

Pre-Typepad Pre-Conception & Pregnancy Archive

Below are all the entries about pregnancy and conception from before I started using Typepad. Also included are parenting entries from the first few months after Liam was born.

Pregnancy and (lots of) trying to conceive posts after this date (for a second baby) are in the Pregnancy and trying to conceive category.

Since these early ones are not in the Typepad template they don't have comments enabled, but feel free to post comments in response to this post - they will show up as new comments on the front page of narrating kayoz. I've dated this entry before I actually started using Typepad to make sure it comes right at the beginning.

Updated May 2006 to add: Gradually I plan to republish all these posts into Typepad, but this is more trying than I expected (what with having to go back month by month to get the dates right from back in 2000, plus having to fix a lot of yucky code when I paste it in), so it may take a few years... :) They will appear below this post in the 'Old Pregnancy Archive' category, as and when I do get to them. I'm not going to publish them in the 'Pregnancy and trying to concieve' category, because I want to keep the pre-Typepad post separate.

Pre-pregnancy
First trimester | Second trimester | Third trimester
'Fourth trimester'
Starting again
       
Pre-pregnancy
2000
29 January Natural fertility and contraception
14 March Babies' names
2 April Conception plans, and single ovary issues
13 June Pissy about having to put the baby plan off again.
22 June Coming to terms with the changing plans
1 July I got my Natural Fertility Kit in the mail Thursday....
24 September Becoming parents (slowly)

2001
18 March Preparing for conception - changing our diet
19 May Are we really ready to make a baby?
26 May Could I be pregnant?
13 June Answer: No
17 June Finished knitting a baby blanket
25 July Why we've decided to put off trying until December
       
First Trimester
28 July I still can't believe it - I'm pregnant!
31 July 5 weeks today, feeling happy, worried and tired
1 August Tired and Crabby and looking for a midwife
2 August Wanting a celebration (very short entry)
3 August A flex day: paying bills, seeing the GP and developing pregnancy nausea.
5 August Day 40. Hungry, nauseous, and wondering if I really still want a new, challenging job.
7 August Tears, hormones, and feeling alone
20 September Talking to a doctor at the foetal medicine unit, plus Sabine's baby is born.
26 September Thirteen weeks. Today we heard the baby's heart beat for  the first time.

Second Trimester
16 October My first ever fainting experience.          
18 November Finally enjoying pregnancy!
28 November Chris feels the baby move and I feel like a hippo
6 December 23 weeks. First baby purchase and first baby gift.
31 December 27 weeks. Feeling vulnerable - a private person in the public domain of pregnancy.      

Third Trimester        
22 January 2002 An abdominal muscle strain (not placental abruption as I first feared) and feeling even bigger!
28 January 2002 The muscle strain is still bothering me, but maternity leave approaches.
13 March 2002 Maternity leave is bliss! All those people who said I'd be bored and just in waiting mode must have rocks in their heads!
16 March 2002 A mother and baby blessing was thrown for me!

The Birth of Liam (written about a month later)

'Fourth Trimester'       
24 March 2002 Liam Christopher has been born
15 April 2002 So many changes in three short weeks. How time has flown - and yet, it seems impossible that we've only had Liam with us for 26 days.
18 April 2002 Four weeks old today.
27 April 2002 Week 6, and a first sleepy chuckle.
6 July 2002 What a clever boy we have. Shame about the sleep though.
8 July 2002 A '10 week old' photo.
9 July 2002 Trying to decide about vaccinations.

See Liam's Log for more about Liam & parenting him in the first 2+years... And then see the parenting archives of Narrating kayoz
       
Starting again
24 May 2004 Could I be?
06 August 2004 Pre-conception planning again
16 August 2004 Not my last pregnancy
   

Monday, 16 August 2004

Not my last pregnancy?

This time next week I could be pregnant. Actually, I could be pregnant sooner than that, given that my last cycle was only 25 days. I could be pregnant within a couple of days, although that's not all that likely. And either way we won't know for at least another week or two.

We haven't decided yet whether this will be our last child. We only ever planned on having two, until Liam was born. But since then we've tossed around the idea of having three quite seriously. It's expensive, this business of having children. Some people say that shouldn't be a consideration in whether to have another, but it is.

But there are other things too.

Age, for instance. If we space them all apart by three+ years, Chris will be forty, or very close to, by the time the third child is born.

Career? Yes, believe it or not, I am starting to get why people feel frustrated by having to put their career 'on hold' during their children's baby years. And I'm not exactly career oriented!

Patience? Yep, that too. I have a friend who has two children and simply says that she loves her children incredibly, but she doesn't think she has the patience to cope with more than two.

But the thing is, I don't feel like this pregnancy - the one I am hoping to embark on very soon - is going to be my last. I feel like if it were, I would need to know that now. I would need to be able to say to myself, this is the last time I will be doing this. Pay attention.

On the other hand, wait till I am in the throes of all day pregnancy sickness and see what I say then.

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Friday, 06 August 2004

Pre-conception

So, did I mentioned that we are, in theory, back on our preconception diet/detox? I say 'back' meaning we're on a second preconception diet, the first one having been pre-Liam.

What that basically means is no alcohol, no caffeine, trying to eat healthy, balanced meals. Lots of organic foods and not too many refined foods. At least, that's what it meant last time. Prior to trying to get pregnant with Liam we did this for four months (plus the couple of months of trying) and were pretty strict, most of the time. This time we only allowed about 3 months, because we suddenly decided to bring our baby making plans forward a couple of months ago, and so far we are not doing all that well. Still, hopefully we're doing well enough, because next month we plan to start trying for another baby.

And the exciting news is my best friend has just found out that her partner is pregnant, so if I get pregnant the first attempt (which of course I am fully intending) our second children will be even closer together than our first.

**This post was orginially published on Ocean View Verandah using Blogger. Please let me know of any down links (especially to photos).**

Tuesday, 14 March 2000

Origin of Names

So I've spent most of this evening searching on the internet for my girl-baby's name of choice. No, I am not pregnant nor likely to be that way this year! But I am hoping to be next year. And I have had the girl's name option picked out for a while. The boy's Chris and I haven't been able to agree on yet. We also haven't been able to agree on a surname (probably hyphenated, but in which order?!), but we'll get there.

Anyway, the name is Mikaela. Or possibly Mikayla. Or Michaela. Or Micaela. Or Makaela. Or Michayla. Or Mikhaela. Or... Well, you get the idea I imagine. So I've been trying to find info on origins, which spelling's from from where, meanings, legends, etc. I've found lots of sites of babies names, but most of them are fairly superficial and don't give any more detail than "feminine form of Michael" and "Who is like God?" (with or without the '?' depending on the site).

I did find a page 9link now defunct) on the Legend of Mikayla, Goddess of the Isle of May. And lots of sites about babies and young children named Mikayla, Michaela or Mikaela (which are my preferred spellings I think, so I didn't do individual searches under all the other options). So I guess it's a fairly popular name. Oh well.

So if anyone out there who happens to read this page knows of any really good pages on the origins/history/legend associated with names, or just about the name Michaela (etc.) - please will you email it to me?

[This is one of a selection of posts republished here, but originally published in Ocean View Verandah]

Saturday, 29 January 2000

Natural Fertility and apple trees

Today I ate the first ever apple from our apple tree! In truth it probably wasn't quite ripe - tasted OK, but the texture was a little woody. But there are another 15 or so one there. It's only a small apple tree. We planted it about 2 years ago, and didn't really expect fruit for another year or two yet. So that was very exciting. Also, we haven't used any pesticides or artificial fertilisers - we're trying to keep our garden to organic principles as much as possible - but the apples show absolutely no sign of having pest problems. Of course, I suppose it's early days yet.

Now I am keen to plant more fruit trees out the back of our house. We have a tiny block, but we just put trellis up above the fence to hide the ugly 2 story units going up behind us (not that that does a very good job), so we thought we might espalier plum trees and maybe apricots and another apple or two along the back fence. That may sound like a lot for a tiny garden, but we figure if we plant them fairly close together they'll fit. True they probably won't grow to be as big or have as much fruit, but really, how much fruit are we likely to eat anyway? I'd rather have a few apricots and a few apples and a few plums than heaps and heaps of plums. That's a permaculture principle, more or less, which is something we are fairly into in a casual sort of way.

The other day I bought a book on natural fertility called, believe it or not, Natural Fertility. I went on the pill a few months ago, after about 3 years of using condoms since I last decided to go off it. I went back on it because I knew my period was due just after the date of my wedding, and with the extra stress of trying to get everything finished at work for us to take all of December off, I figured it would probably come early. Well, that was one extra thing to worry about that I really didn't need, so despite the fact that I think putting artificial hormones into your body is essentially a horrible thing to do (generally), I decided to do it. And I must say, not having to use condoms for our honeymoon was pretty great. But actually it was so great, I really don't want to go back to using them. Neither does Chris, so we decided to buy a book to teach us how to avoid getting pregnant simply by figuring out which days I could get pregnant. The added bonus is that next year we are planning to get pregnant on purpose so this helps with that too.

So far all I've read are the first two chapters which are more or less to convince you that this is a good idea. I already knew that I was opposed to the blasé way the pill is prescribed willy nilly, while we still don't know what the long term affects might be. Much like Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), which certainly (like the pill) may have it's advantages, but is not without some serious risks, and again we don't know what the long term effects will be. But now I'm even more opposed. Most of the potential side effects she listed were already known to me, although the 10 year programme by the California Walnut Creek drug study was new to me. It found a significant increase in inflammatory diseases in women under 40 who have taken, or currently take, the Pill, including respiratory, digestive, urogenital and musculoskeletal disorders. That may not seem very serious (what is significant and how serious are the conditions? you may ask), but it just goes to show the effects artificial hormone therapy can have in areas we haven't even thought of.

But here's the really scary thing. A number of the contraindications/cautions for taking the Pill, I didn't know about. Things like recurrent headaches (which I get a *lot* of). That's scary, because over the years I have been prescribed the pill by at least 4 different doctors, both here and in the States. Now, you'd think they would check, wouldn't you, whether any of those contraindications applied to me. Some of them I'd never been to before, so they didn't have any kind of history for me. I think one of the biggest problem with western medical practices today is the lack of time taken. The first time I went to see a herbalist she spent 1� hours with me and took a very thorough history. Of course, consequently she doesn't get paid as much as a doctor would!

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I am soooo glad to have a day off tomorrow. I am getting really sick of working 6 days a week. Me, the person who never wanted to work more than 4 days in a week, and less if I could help it. Now I work 6 days a week, plus many an evening. On Saturdays (ie today) I'm only massaging, which I would hardly consider work most of the time, but it's just the fact that it another day that I have to get up and get to work by 9am or before that gets to me. Well, maybe that, and the lack of time to be at home/hang out with Chris/read & write web journals/oh yeah, read and write/DO NOTHING.

Of course, what makes it worse is this sort of foolishness: After writing at about 9am last night that I was going to have an early night, I went to read Bad Hair Days. Beth was complaining that she didn't get a workout last night, which most likely was all Pamie's fault. She considerately included a link, so that we could all stay up late (not working out) reading Pamie & Stee's emails (after finishing Beth's words for the day of course). Now I have had two nights in a row without enough sleep, and although I do not have to get up tomorrow morning I am going to have to go to bed NOW.

(that is of course, after I go back online to check out what the links are to get to the correct entries at Bad Hair Days and Squishy, check my email again, ftp this across to crosswinds, realise I haven't updated the links in yesterday's entry and the index, update those, ftp those across...)

[This is one of a selection of posts republished here, but originally published on Ocean View Verandah]